Engage in the community of your genre. You say there’s not a community for your genre. I say poppycock!
The more animal part of my brain wants complete debauchery.
I had always steered clear of self-publishing or even blogging outside of my LiveJournal. I have been convinced that if I didn’t go the traditional route of getting an agent and then having the agent sell my stuff, I wasn’t a “real” author. Not being a “real author” also precluded me from talking to other authors.
This juggling often times makes me feel like that famous picture of Dr. Seuss’ The Cat in the Hat.
“…it’s a matter of balance.”